читать дальшеWhen being in love means being in pain we are loving too much. When most of our conversations with intimate friends are about him, his problems, his thoughts, his feelings - and nearly all our sentances begin with "he...", we are loving too much. When we excuse his moodines, bad temper, indifference, or put-downs as problems due to unhappy childhood and we try to become his therapist, we are loving too much. When we read a self-help book and underline all the passages we think would help him, we are loving too much. When we don't like many of his basic characteristics, values, and behaviors, but we put up with them thinking that if we are only attractive and loving enought he'll want to change for us, we are loving too much.
...Inspite of all its pain and dissatisfaction, loving too much is such a common experience for many women that we almost believe it is the only way intimate relations are supposed to be.